My sweet Andy
I know you are probably excited about coming to university and that your parents may have already told one or two things about university life but I thought now would be the perfect time for me to share my first year experiences with you. I know my parents warned me about a lot of things that happen at varsity but I still wish that they could have at least told me about staying who I am.
It was approximately two weeks after Orientation Week when I actually got head-to-head with peer pressure. I had already made friends or at least I thought they were my friends. We were enjoying ourselves and we had decided to go out one night, just to have a good time while we could because at the end of the day we had to bear in mind what we came to varsity for, and that was to get our degree.
I had never touched alcohol in my entire life and had never planned to. All of my friends drank and I was the only who was not into alcohol. They all thought that I was not “cool” and that I defeated the purpose of us calling ourselves the Cool Chicks as I did not want to drink alcohol. They asked me try it and to be honest, I was tempted to as they all claimed “it was not that bad”.
I started looking at myself and remembering the promise I had not only to my mother but to myself as well. I have seen how people, girls in particular, end up losing their dignities because they are so trying hard to fit in. I knew I had to break it up with them because friends look out for each other and respect one another’s decisions and sadly, they were none of that, all they wanted to do was to drag me to their level.
I wish my mother had cautioned about misleading friends because I though we were going to have a valuable friendship but unfortunately, they were not friends enough to value my decision. So all I wanted to let you know that there are misleaders everywhere and it’s you who knows who you are and staying who you are will benefit no one but you.
Yours Lovingly
Philisiwe.
I know you are probably excited about coming to university and that your parents may have already told one or two things about university life but I thought now would be the perfect time for me to share my first year experiences with you. I know my parents warned me about a lot of things that happen at varsity but I still wish that they could have at least told me about staying who I am.
It was approximately two weeks after Orientation Week when I actually got head-to-head with peer pressure. I had already made friends or at least I thought they were my friends. We were enjoying ourselves and we had decided to go out one night, just to have a good time while we could because at the end of the day we had to bear in mind what we came to varsity for, and that was to get our degree.
I had never touched alcohol in my entire life and had never planned to. All of my friends drank and I was the only who was not into alcohol. They all thought that I was not “cool” and that I defeated the purpose of us calling ourselves the Cool Chicks as I did not want to drink alcohol. They asked me try it and to be honest, I was tempted to as they all claimed “it was not that bad”.
I started looking at myself and remembering the promise I had not only to my mother but to myself as well. I have seen how people, girls in particular, end up losing their dignities because they are so trying hard to fit in. I knew I had to break it up with them because friends look out for each other and respect one another’s decisions and sadly, they were none of that, all they wanted to do was to drag me to their level.
I wish my mother had cautioned about misleading friends because I though we were going to have a valuable friendship but unfortunately, they were not friends enough to value my decision. So all I wanted to let you know that there are misleaders everywhere and it’s you who knows who you are and staying who you are will benefit no one but you.
Yours Lovingly
Philisiwe.
1 comment:
In varsity it’s not easy to find good friends because you all come from different environments, culture and lifestyle etc. People like to change their characters when their at varsity, this likely to occur when people want to please their new friends in terms of clothing, going out on weekends. Mostly you find that this person has never gone out when at their homes. Varsity creates sort of freedom to them, the independence which it leads to not being true to themselves in the environment. I agree to Philisiwe also from the fact that a person would like to fit into some friendship even though they do not fit in. Varsity life is an immeasurable challenge that other people cannot handle.
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